Overcoming the Fear of Vulnerability

Shielding your weaknesses closes your potential in exuding your personal power; preventing your gift to your world be shared. When we are scared to open up, expose our wounds, shed light on the darkness within, we create a barricade that stops us from showing our strength and courage. If you do not do this for the positive influence your story or experience can have on others, do it for yourself. Yes, it’s scary to put yourself out there and expose your true-self. It’s uncomfortable. There’s no better way to explain it.

At the center of our core, is our heart. This is where all of our feeling comes from. When we block off what our heart we suppress our feelings; especially the negative ones. It’s important we be open and aware to everything we feel from our heart-centered core being, because this is where we find guidance and our truest desires. If you find yourself falling off-centered and not aligned with what is true in the universe, it could be time to evaluate how open you are to vulnerability.

When we mistake vulnerability for weakness, we distance ourselves from true love, passion, mindful decision making and ultimately, a full-filling life. Being scared of vulnerability only keeps us in a cage, hiding from the light that our heart desires the most. Putting yourself out there and being a bit of a target for criticism is a bold move. It takes a lot of guts and courage to do that. No, it doesn’t mean you are weak if you are being vulnerable. It means you are brave and willing to face whatever comes your way. It means being open and honest. It means being true to who you are and standing for what you believe in.

One of the most important things you can do in overcoming this fear, is to look at WHY you are scared to be open.

What scares you about being open? Why does it scare you?

For me, it was the judgement and criticism of others. For such a long time, I felt like everything I did was being criticized and it was just safer for me to keep all my thoughts, ideas, and stories to myself. After nearly 6 months of doing this and running from being vulnerable, I found myself feeling bottled up, wanting to explode, I couldn’t take it anymore. I didn’t want to live in fear anymore of what people thought of me- what I wore, what I believed it, what color my hair was, who I loved, the list goes on. It all became too much. That’s when I decided to start trusting how I felt and having the courage to be speak out about it.

It’s fear that holds us back and it’s that same reservation we must overcome in order to live as our truest, most powerful self; even if it means being vulnerable.

How to Overcome the Fear of Vulnerability

  • Ask yourself what you’re afraid of
  • Dive deep and explore the reasons WHY you’re afraid
  • Spend 20-30 minutes per day in deep meditation: Meditation on The Perfect You
  • Push out the neurotic chatter that’s feeding you negative criticism
  • Be real with how you feel – no matter the discomfort this idea brings – let it go
  • Surround yourself with positive people who uplift you rather than beat you down
  • Break free from the control of others; allow yourself to make your own conscious decisions that best suit your needs and truest desires
  • Make no excuses for procrastinating on doing/saying what you need to do
  • Get motivated and practice acts of self-care to prepare you in feeling confident and self-assured

Benefits of Being Vulnerable

  • Be a positive reflection of what it means to be your authentic self
  • The positive impact you will have on someone else’s life
  • A change of perspective someone else may gain
  • Build empathy
  • The sense of accomplishment and freedom felt when you release inner emotions
  • Make peace with your troubled past
  • Become humble
  • Learn to appreciate your unique traits and gifts
  • The trust you will build with others
  • Begin to attract the right people in your life
  • Grow closer to your romantic partner
  • Improved quality of sleep
  • A more fulfilling life without hesitation and excuses


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