Being single is an opportunity to focus on work, spend time with friends and family, and learn to enjoy time alone. We all go through periods in our life where we find ourselves not involved in a serious or committed relationship. For me it feels like it’s been a while and that’s probably because it has been.
For years, I’ve dated men who couldn’t bring themselves to commit. Being single is nothing new to me, in fact I enjoy it. So much so that often dread the thought of having a full time, “What are you doing?” 24/7 boyfriend. I enjoy the company of other people, but in moderation. I enjoy going to nice dinners, seeing movies, being held, told I’m beautiful, and giving my love to those I adore and think highly of.
Dating has always been a pain in the butt. I don’t enjoy it. What I do enjoy is the excitement of being with and thinking of that one person you can’t take your mind off. I enjoy wrapping my arms around them and having them in my company to laugh, share meals, ideas, and kiss late at night. I enjoy romance.
It doesn’t come often. In fact, my life has lacked true romance for quite some time. But I won’t complain about it because I am too busy enjoying doing whatever the heck I want, whenever I want, where ever I want without an insecure boyfriend tapping me on the shoulder every 2 seconds wondering where I am and who I’m with. Trust me, 90% of the time I’m at home 5% of the time I’m at the gym and the other 5% of the time I’m at the beach.
Every person who is currently in a relationship has to tend to that other person’s needs. A single person on the other hand does not. They are free to roam, explore, call if they want, and if not- it’s not a big deal. At least it shouldn’t be.
See that’s the thing. Commitment is when two people agree to be in a relationship together, be loyal and truthful to one another. Make decisions based upon how it could affect the relationship or the other person’s reputation. When you are single it should be clear between the two people that the commitment has not been made and when it is made it should always be very clear so that the chances of anyone getting hurt are slim.
When you’re single (male or female) and you find yourself bored at night, lonely, maybe even hopeless- think of positive things happening in your life. Think about the great group of friends you have and the crazy amazing goals you have set out to achieve in the next 30-90 days. When you’re feeling down and out about being single, just remember that there is someone out there who is in a similar situation as you are who is patiently waiting for the day they will meet you.
Believe in love. Trust yourself. And get out more. You shouldn’t be down and out that you don’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend. You should be thankful you’re not in some miserable relationship pretending that everything is flipping perfect so all your Facebook friends can like your photos and comment on your corny status updates.
Who cares if you’re not the person who goes from one relationship to another or who always needs a boyfriend or girlfriend just to feel accepted. You are a strong individual capable of being alone and still being happy, successful, and loved.
Be happy you are single and embrace the time you have now to work on your goals, earn more money, volunteer for charities, spend time with family, and invest in yourself so that one day you will find yourself in an incredible relationship with endless amounts of love and happiness.
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